Love-Fu:

Love-Fu:
The Martial Art
Of Dealing With
A Very Challenging Person

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by KUTE BLACKSON

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                                                                                     Photo Credit : Gail Ackerman
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Those that challenge you the most are also your greatest teachers.
Thank them, for they are the ones that call you to live your highest potential.

They are the opportunity for you to face yourself, your fears and those parts
of you that you don’t like, for they will expose it.

They are the opportunity to see how you stop loving and to love bigger.

They invite you to live the books, your prayers and your spirituality.

Often when we are faced with a challenging individual, we get angry. We might
defend our point, want to fight, be righteous, judge or collapse in fear.

Most of all those that challenge us, give us the opportunity to love.

But we must first shift our perception, how we view the situation and
that person.



Here are some steps:

1 -Shift: See that person/situation as a gift. They are the opportunity
for you to grow and love more.

2 – Let go: Give up being right and commit to being FREE. Nothing/No one
is worth your happiness or peace. Life is way too short.

3 – Realize: They are reflecting something for you to see, a part of yourself
that you need to own, an old wound that you get to heal and let go.

4 – Responsibility: Take the focus off of them, take responsibility and
learn your lesson. Embrace it. Graduate from the experience and move on.

5 - Release: Accept the person exactly as they are. Perhaps that might mean
you will need to let them go from your life or shift the dynamics of your
relationship. Stop fighting what they are.

6 – Communicate: Either communicate with them directly if appropriate or
simply bless them and let them go within your own heart. Since everything
is energy and we are all interconnected, the good vibes that you send that
person will affect them.

7 – Appreciate: Acknowledge your growth and learning. Focus on what you
received, and the person you became as a result, rather than what was taken.

Remember: When someone attacks you, they are in a lot of pain. And even
though it is directed at you, it most often isn’t about you. It isn’t personal,
even though it seems that way and they might even feel that way.

You can choose to fight fire with fire, but this only creates more devastation.
When someone attacks you, they want to engage you in a fight. If you attack back,
you are now caught up in a vicious cycle.

Even if you win the fight… no one really wins. Let go. Focus on freedom
and resolution.

It takes two people to fight. When you don’t engage the attack energy,
soon your adversary will be left fighting with her/himself.
Then the energy will dissipate.

If you drop to the level of your “attacker”, you perpetuate the cycle of
endless negativity. Your “attacker” will try to use your energy to keep
a war going. But if you don’t engage, then there is no resistance.
They will have no fuel to keep fighting you with.

If someone gives you a gift, but you decline to accept it, to whom
does the gift belong? It still belongs to the other person!

Rise above it. Disengage. Step to the side. Redirect. Live your freedom.

So, practice Love Fu. Then “Peace” is no longer just a sweet T-shirt slogan.
And Love is not just some nice mantra. But Love becomes a daily reality and
the opportunity in action for you to live moment to moment.

Love,

Kute

Check out more of my work at http://www.kuteblackson.com/

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