The 4 Rules Of Fair Fighting!

by Terri Cole

Are you

a fair fighter,

or do you fight

dirty?

Do you know

what it means to be a fair fighter?

There are 4 “rules” to fair fighting”:

1.1. No Name Calling.

It will not resolve anything and is the opposite of loving.

1.2. No Blaming.

Just don’t. Enough said.

1.3. Only Stick To the Issues At Hand.

Do not go back in time and bring up everything that
has pissed you off since Clinton was in office.

1.4. Give Each Other Space To Talk.

Do not be quick to cut off the other person with a
typical phrase like, “but that’s not what happened”.
Take a deep breath. Be the water rather than the stone.

Many times remembering why you love this person makes
resolving differences easier.

Fair fighting is a skill and I have no doubt you can
learn it and watch your relationship evolve into a more
peaceful space. Conflicts will arise but it is how we
manage them that creates or destroys trust.

How do you handle disagreements with your loved ones?
Is it easier to resolve conflicts with some family
members/partners than others? Share your thoughts
on what you think fair fighting entails or if you need
some advice on a sticky situation.

Here’s hoping for week of nonviolent communication
and loving solutions!

Love Love Love

Terri


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