being alone

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By allowing ourselves to be comfortable

with being alone, we can become the people

with whom we want to have a relationship.

The most important relationship we have in

our lives is with our selves. And even though

we are the only ones who are present at every

moment of our lives ˜from birth onward” this

relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate.

This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being

in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs

of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the

right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential.

By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the

people with whom we want to have a relationship. Perhaps at no other time in

history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone.

We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without

needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can

pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business

partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and

created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can

share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within

ourselves. As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles

of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone

nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth.

We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships.

When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and

others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths

and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves,

and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage

of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves,

whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not.

Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship

 - the one with our true selves.

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ME and the Boss
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by Madisyn Taylor